You can always choose how you take on circumstances

“I may wish to be free from torture, but if the time comes for me to endure it, I’ll wish to bear it courageously with bravery and honor. Wouldn’t I prefer to not fall into war? But if war does befall me, I’ll wish to carry the nobly wounds, starvation, and other necessities of war. Neither am I so crazy as to desire illness but if I must suffer illness, I’ll wish to do nothing rash or dishonorable. The point is to not wish for these adversities, but for the virtue that makes adversities bearable.” – Seneca, Moral Letters